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3 Tips To Help You and Your Spouse Talk to Your Kids About Divorce

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Like most parents, you hope to never need to talk to your kids about divorce. But divorce happens, and when it does, your kids need to understand the situation and how it affects them. Your kids may be more perceptive about what’s going on than you think, which makes the conversation all the more important. Follow these tips to talk to your kids about divorce and make sure they understand what’s going on and feel reassured about their future.

Explain Together

This is the time for you and your spouse to put aside your differences and make a statement together in front of your kids. Don’t fight with each other during this conversation, as the goal is to show your children that you can work together as parents. Also avoid the blame game or making negative comments about each other in front of your kids during this conversation, says Liana Lowenstein, MSW, a therapist who offers resources for families going through divorce. Click here to read her article, Explaining Separation/Divorce to Children.

Script It

Don’t improvise the conversation when you talk to your kids about divorce. Instead, decide what to say beforehand, and stick to the script. Start by understanding your child’s age group and what’s essential to them. Today’s Parent offers a thorough age by age guide worth a read before you create your script.

Gerald A. Falzone, a family law attorney, says there’s no need to pretend everything is fine during this conversation. He suggests keeping things simple and about facts. Get ideas about what to say in his article, Joint Custody: How to Talk With Your Kids About Divorce.

Basically, explain when the divorce will take place and which parent will be staying in the home and which one will be moving out. Talk to them about when they will see the other parent, according to your custody arrangement. This part of the conversation may come later than the initial announcement. Take a look at the example scripts offered at FamilyEducation.org.

Encourage Questions

Allow your kids to explain how they feel right after the announcement and in the days to follow. Encourage any questions they may have. Listen carefully to what they have to say, and if you don’t know the answer, tell them so. Acknowledge their feelings instead of pushing them away, as this leaves the door open for maintaining an open dialogue as the divorce progresses.

Related:

We sell do-it-yourself divorce/dissolution kits as well as legal separation kits, good in the state of Washington. These kits can be bought as an instant download, or you can order one, and we’ll mail it to you:

Divorce Forms Kit without Children (also known as Dissolution Kit without Children)

Divorce Forms Kit with Children (also known as Dissolution Kit with Children)

Legal Separation Kit, Non-Contested

 

DIY Legal Forms/Kits: 6 Tips for Using Legal Kits and Forms

DIY legal forms/kits make it easy to create and file certain types of legal documents.

Completing DIY legal forms/kits can save you thousands of dollars in attorney fees. We offer do-it-yourself legal forms for filing documents in the State of Washington. But we also offer a long list of attorneys in Washington state who can handle your legal matters. Why do we offer both?

Some situations require an experienced attorney who knows how to handle your situation, knows how to work the courts and can get the job done accurately. Otherwise, mistakes could be made that cause even bigger problems down the road.

But there are times when you can likely fill out and file DIY legal forms/kits on your own. Here are some of the advantages of using DIY legal forms/kits to solve a legal issue:

Save legal fees.

If you cannot afford to pay an attorney hundreds or even thousand of dollars or want to save $$, paying a modest fee for a form you fill in and file yourself can help keep your budget intact. Another option is to find free legal resources such as those mentioned in our recent blog post about resources available for civil legal problems in Washington state.

Handle matters faster.

Sometimes you need to act fast. Completing the form yourself can save time since you won’t need to wait for an attorney to find a spot in their schedule to meet with you and then handle the project.

Reduce an attorney’s time.

Filling out a legal form ahead of your meeting with an attorney could save you hours of the their billable time, resulting in a huge cost savings. If you feel unsure about how you filled out the form, always rely on an attorney’s expertise to finalize the job–you’ll still save money and have the satisfaction of knowing your forms are correct.

Helps you get organized.

Even if you plan to meet with an attorney, filling out the forms to the best of your abilities ahead of the meeting helps you organize your thoughts about your legal matter. You may also discover you need to bring other documents to the meeting with your attorney. This saves time having to send them separately or setting up another meeting to deliver everything.

Sometimes hiring an attorney is overkill.

Simple tasks such as filling in a straightforward will, power of attorney, health care directive or eviction notice requires little to no legal experience. If you find yourself questioning the form, though, consulting an attorney makes sense.

Download current forms from trusted websites.

One of the advantages of using our do-it-yourself legal kits and forms is because they’re up-to-date with current requirements mandated by Washington state judicial authorities. We stay on top of that, in part, thanks to our office located in the King County Court House in Seattle.

Our forms are available as instant downloads so you can start using them immediately. Or you can also order a printed version, and we’ll mail it to you within one to two business days. Visit doityourselflegalkits.com to see a list of available kits.